I’m coming home
Assalmu’alaikum!
See any
difference on my blog’s bio? Yes, now I’m officially a wife for my husband,
alhamdulillaah on 10th of March I tied the knot with a man who is fated to me,
Candra Nugraha. Different from another post that I’ve ever made, in this post
I’d like to share about how I finally made this decision, one of the biggest step in my entire life, how I put trust on my husband as my lifetime
partner to hand in hand aiming our ultimate goal, to meet Him in jannah.
First
thing first, all is happened by His Mercy and thanks to Allaah to made
everything impossible to be possible, all praises to Him. Realizing that Allaah
has written our names as a husband and wife is something we never expected
before, neither our families nor our relatives. A night before akad my eyes
were blurry, wondering the journey that Allaah has given to me until this
point, mesmerizing every single scene of my life that finally made
sense and it was incredibly wonderful, alhamdulillaah alhamdulilaah..
How I met my husband?
He was a
total stranger for me, a man out of no where gave his curriculum
vitae which containing his personal data and his marriage life vision which was
brought by my brother in law (he is my brother's office mate). Both of us
never ever met before, so as a not girl anymore but not a woman yet,
I was doubting him, how come a man that I never talked before even I never
met him before will became my husband. There was a time that I
doubt him, and so do him, he felt waver to me, but alhamdulillaah Allaah guided
us with His best guidance, I asked Allaah if he is meant to be mine, please
make him close and give me the faith that he is the one I look for all
this time. This process took 4 months to ensure that both of us can complete
each other, are fated to be together. In this process, me and my husband
never contacted or communicated each other, why? We want to keep our
heart is pure, and neutral, so there was no any propensity which could mess up
our final decision. And how we communicate? We communicate by our kind of third
person that were my sister also her husband, and my close friend who is
actually his high school mate (life is about expect the unexpected thing
huh?).
And
after both of us were sure that we could complete each other as husband and
wife, we decided to meet, yes it was our first meeting. On our first meeting,
my parent accompanied us to ensuring me and my husband about our answer.
There was a short dialogue between me and my husband that made me smile from
ear to ear which I can’t forget till forever.
Husband
: So, what is your activity right now?
Me
: I do selling my own product.
(we
were silent on several second)
Husband
: Is there anything that you want to ask?
Me
: everything is clear, how about you?
any question for me?
Husband
: no,everything is just clear.
I did
not expect that he asked me only one question, and I thought that was just for the sake of good manners *lol. Do you know how was my feeling at that
time? My stomach was full with butterflies, and finally I felt my home was
near, yes I would be coming home soon. And that night I felt a warm
conversation between my parent and my husband, it was soothing. FYI, after that
short dialogue I heard all the conversation behind the wall after that short
yet fascinated night talk.
How I found the answer?
As I
said before, both of us felt doubt and also we felt insecure about each other,
but after doing some several ikhtiar(s) to get to know about him by asking some
several persons who knows him quite well, I ended up by doing istikhara. Istikhara
is the last thing and the most crucial step to find out the answer for every
decision in our life, we would not know about what will happen in the
future, we're nothing without Him. I beg to Allaah by performing istikhara
before I was going bed in the night, day by day. During istikhara period
(4 months), I forced myself to get closer to Allaah by performing shalah and
fasting even more frequent than I used to or recite qur'an on the dusk and
dawn or in between. Istikhara led us to a final decision which made me and
my husband feel no more fear about all the insecurities that we had before, and
at the end istikhara indirectly reassure our self that our decision is the best
answer from Allaah. Once we got a conviction about each other, all the fears
and insecurities that we had in our mind (and sometimes bothered us) were
immediately disappeared after we did istikharah for several times. It was such
a long process to made our heart was firm about our final answer, but thanks to
Allaah, He guides us to a beautiful ending which bring us to the extraordinary
beginning.
I
believe that Allaah would gave His answer when we were having a good
relationship with Him and I do believe that an answer from istikhara
is the best answer for my dunya and hereafter, and at this stage I
learned how to put my trust on Allaah. here it is, the deep and
beautiful meaning of istikahara du'a.
O Allah! I ask guidance from Your knowledge, and Power from
Your Might and I ask for Your great blessings. You are capable and I am not.
You know and I do no and You know the unseen. O Allah! If You know that this
job is good for my religion and my subsistence and in my Hereafter, Then You
ordain it for me and make it easy for me to get, And then bless me in it, and
if You know that this job is harmful to me in my religion and subsistence and
in the Hereafter, Then keep it away from me and let me be away from it. And
ordain for me whatever is good for me, And make me a satisfied with it).
One
thing that I am sure is we're all human who lacks in many ways, no one we can
rely on except Allaah, The One who knows every single thing in this universe
either in the past or in the future, The Best Planners for every His servant.
There is an interesting sentence that I highlighted and I think this is the
essential thing from this du'a, " If You know that this job is good for my religion and
my subsistence and in my Hereafter, Then You ordain it for me and make it easy
for me to get, And then bless me in it, and if You know that this job is
harmful to me in my religion and subsistence and in the Hereafter, Then keep it
away from me and let me be away from it', This du'a is taught(and highly
recommended) by our Prohet Muhammad SAW to ask Allaah so that we ask to
Allaah to seek His answer (also His blessings)what's good not only for our
dunya and also for our life after life, The Hereafter.
There are two indicators as a signal that I've already
got the answer from Him, the first one is we got our parent's blessings.
However our parent's blessing is Allaah's blessings too and we could not
neglect this signal, once when we got the green light from our parents, we’re
sure about this decision which is strengthening the second indicator.Then the
second one and the most important signal is we convinced that we meant for
each other, doubtless. I did not see him from his background, or what kind of
person he is, I only consider how he perform his shalah also how he acts towards
his family especially to his mother. And so do him, after we're officially
getting married I asked him what did you see on me? He said a simple
answer ' I just need to know how you maintain your shalah and how you cover
your aurah, then I convinced everything about you'. Nope, we are not
perfect, either me or my husband, both of us has our own flaws here and there ,
but we believe when we choose each other as a husband or wife based on how deep
faith that he/she has into Allaah, and we're looking for the answer by His
guidance, Allaah will replied our pray based on our needs, not based on what we
want, insha Allaah. We do hope when we followed what Allaah and
Rasulullah taught to us, it will bring a peace for our self.
So
that's all, finally I can sum up how Allaah reunited and guided us during
this journey, how we met also how we feel safe and sound about our decision to
get married. Allaah has His own way to create such a beautiful story
between me and my husband, after a long wait Allaah gave us the best result
that we’ve never imagined and expected before. For His Mercy, after
that meeting, every step went very smooth until our d-day and
surprisingly day after day we are figuring out many surprises that made us feel
more grateful from each other. Every time I remembered about the way we
met, I amazed by His Power to unite two hearts, two souls that never met before
then finally meet to build a marriage life based on His Love, faith
towards Him to hold each other to His paradise. No words can describe
how grateful I am that Allaah has written his name for me, and it blows my
mind the way how Allaah
made everything is sensible. May Allaah bring joy and His blessings to our
marriage life, grant us with shalih and shaliha children, and we hope this
marriage can bring us together into the eternity, His Jannah.
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